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The Yama Everyone Avoids Talking About

April 7, 2024 Emily Haight

The first limb of yoga, the 5 yamas, are yoga ethics. Almost everyone is on board with non-violence (ahimsa), truthfulness (satya), not stealing (asteya) and not being greedy (aparigraha), but a lot of us like to ignore this last one… celibacy? Nobody likes to talk about brahmacharya. Some translations I’ve seen for this yama include abstinence or the reining in of sexual energy, but moderation in “sensual” activities doesn’t have to mean sexual. It’s literally about avoiding succumbing completely to your five senses.

I was taught that it means turning inward instead of having quick, knee jerk reactions to stimulation of your senses which can cause us to depend on certain crutches that aren’t serving us. Practicing brahmacharya helps us to find freedom from these dependencies, or at least practice balance when it comes to them.

I definitely experience overstimulation as a parent and am quick to just put on YouTube or a video game for the kids when that wasn’t my original plan. Don’t get me wrong. We fully use screens as a third parent sometimes, but I’d like to find more balance, do it less often, and keep from having that be my immediate first reaction. I’d also like to be more mindful about the books my kids read and the movies they see and to be more moderate about the screen time so that they don’t get sucked in and disassociate. I want to teach them to be mindful and focused on the important things that truly deserve their attention, like their relationships with friends and family, instead of tuning us out when we try to talk to them when they’re watching something. I want them to save their energy for their true friends instead of worrying about trying to please kids who maybe aren’t the nicest to them or who don’t seem interested in being their friend in a mutually supportive relationship. This mindful spending of our limited amount of energy can create the balance and benefits we find through brahmacharya.

In Yoga Tags yoga, parenting, parenthood
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Why Yoga?

March 1, 2024 Emily Haight

I really believe that yoga is for EVERYONE and that all people can benefit from it. As a yoga instructor for the past eight years, I’ve always aimed to teach yoga in a way that’s empowering for my students. Yes, I teach poses that create strength and flexibility, but I also focus on mental and spiritual benefits like gaining more clarity and finding a state of balance and peace.

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October 22, 2021 Emily Haight

So many of us have found ourselves in that place, the place where we felt stuck, panicked, and like there was no way out, or that the only way out was self-harm or even ending our own lives. I’ve been there a couple of times, and although I wouldn’t have believed you if you told me then, I’ve always found my way back to my happy, functional self, and I believe that with the right resources, anyone else can, too.

I hate that not everyone has access to the help that I’ve received, and I hope that we can make some institutional changes to remedy that. I’m lucky to have health insurance that covers my wonderful therapist as well as my antidepressant and anti-anxiety medication. I’m so fortunate to have a supportive partner who has had his own struggles with his mental health, and we love and understand each other BECAUSE of these struggles, not in spite of them. If you ever find yourself thinking that you aren’t worthy of love because of your pain, I’m here to tell you that that is completely false. You are able to both give and receive so much love because you understand those truly hard feelings, and that’s what we all need, someone who understands.

Along with being grateful for my supportive partner and family, I’m also grateful for my yoga practice and the fact that I can go to classes safely during a global pandemic and that those classes are free to me. I know most people don’t have that privilege. I encourage you, even if you don’t feel safe practicing in a studio right now or if yoga classes aren’t in your current budget, find some free classes on YouTube. Give it a shot, and see if moving and strengthening your body, letting go of tension, slowing down your breath to soothe your nerves, and focusing on what truly matters helps your mood and your overall health. I truly believe that yoga should be accessible to everyone, and I struggle with the fact that I want that, yet I’m still trying to make a living teaching the practice. I’m hoping soon to launch some classes on this site, both prerecorded and live, that can be accessed through a monthly subscription offered on a sliding scale. Please stay tuned, and stay well. I’m with you.

Tags yoga, mental health, anxiety, depression
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The 10 Best Yoga Poses for Beginners

February 27, 2021 Emily Haight
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You or someone you know might be interested in starting a yoga practice, but you may not know where to start, or you might even think that yoga isn’t for you. YOGA. IS. FOR. EVERYONE. You don’t need to be flexible. There are no prerequisites. You don’t need to have any particular experience. To quote my amazing teacher, Susanna Barkataki, “All of that is the watering down and westernization of physical yoga.” Asana, or the physical yoga postures, is often the sole focus in western yoga. When we think of yoga in the United States, we often think about flexible, thin, white women working out, but I’ve heard some teachers refer to yoga as a “work-in”. One of the reasons that we practice these poses is so that we can get our bodies to a point where we can physically sit and meditate for as long as we like. Once we can find comfortable stillness, we can connect the body, breath, mind, and emotions to see ourselves for who we truly are, and that is the goal of yoga, not headstand. That said, postures are a part of most yoga practices, especially most yoga classes you’ll sign up for in the US or online. Sign up for my email list here, and I’ll walk you through what I think are the ten best yoga poses for beginners. Remember, they don’t have to look perfect. They just have to serve you, to make you feel good. You’ve got this.

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The Importance of Sleep (For Me)

May 17, 2017 Emily Haight
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image via blog.madewell.com

Obviously, everyone needs sleep. The National Sleep Foundation recommends that adults get 7-9 hours of sleep each night, but as with everything else in a person’s life, the amount of sleep needed varies from person to person. We all have our own individual experiences and need to find out what works best for ourselves. For me, I need at least 8 hours. I always have. When I was little and would have sleepovers at friends’ houses, and we would stay up late, I would always get sick the next day. I would run a fever and be out of commission for a week. As an adult, I’m the same way. If I don’t get a full night’s sleep, I feel just terrible. I’m learning that I really need to make sure that I exercise during the day and that I don’t spend time on my phone or computer right before bed to get my best sleep.

The only exception to my needing this much sleep was when my son (now 14 months) was a newborn. Parents of newborns never sleep, but we had an especially difficult experience because Hank was born a month early, and as a result, he slept all the time because he wasn’t quite ready to be out of the womb, to the point where he wouldn’t wake up if he was hungry. His doctor said that he would literally sleep himself to death if we didn’t set an alarm during the night for every two hours to wake him up and feed him. I felt like I was torturing this poor baby every time we had to wake him. We would strip him down to his diaper and have to run a cold washcloth along his tiny body to jolt him awake because nothing else worked. I would try and nurse him for 15 minutes to a half hour, but he would be too sleepy and weak to latch, so then I would feed him a bottle of pumped milk since it was easier for him to drink from a bottle. Then I would have to burp him, pump again and then wash the bottles and pump pieces, and by the time all of that was done, it was almost time to repeat the whole process again!

For some reason, during this two-month period, I was still okay with barely any sleep. I think my brain and body just new that I couldn’t afford to get sick and shut down because my baby needed me, and I find that so amazing. I definitely want to have another baby eventually, and I’m really scared of many aspects of having two children, lack of sleep included, but I think it’s so cool that when we really need them to, our bodies find strength and step up. This is something I’ve learned through practicing yoga. I’ve learned to be honest with myself about what I need mentally and physically, and I’ve learned that I’m a lot stronger than I think.

Tags sleep, health, self care, parenthood, yoga
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Does Yoga Really Help Manage Depression and Anxiety?

May 2, 2017 Emily Haight
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image via instagram/ @aeriallynn

Although there are currently many treatments for depression and anxiety disorders available, including psychotherapy and medication, many people continue to suffer from harmful symptoms as well as relapse.  Yoga can be an effective supplemental treatment in addition to antidepressants and therapy because of yoga’s different beneficial limbs.  Specifically, asana (postures and movement), pranayama (breathing techniques), and dhyana (contemplation or meditation) tend to be the most helpful of the eight limbs.  All three of these steps in a yoga practice can be used to cope with depression and anxiety symptoms in different ways.

Both depression and anxiety manifest themselves physically, and the practice of yoga’s asanas, or poses, can alleviate some of these physical symptoms. An anxious person would benefit from calming poses like balasana (child’s pose) or an inversion like sarvangasana (shoulder stand) where the brain is flooded by freshly oxygenated blood, refreshing and calming the brain. Someone who is depressed might curl in on him/herself and have hunched shoulders.  Heart opening postures like backbends or shoulder openers like adho mukha svanasana (downward-facing dog) can counteract this curve in the neck and back.  The physical contact from a teacher’s adjustments can also be very comforting to a depressed person.  A good teacher can read their student’s body language to assess what he or she may need.

Everyone’s yoga practice is personal.  Each pose called out by a teacher is just a suggestion.  No one is made to do anything, and there are modifications for every posture to accommodate various physical abilities.  There is a focus on reaching your own fullest expression of each pose, your own potential.  There is nothing to cure or “fix” as there might be in other forms of treatment.  This approach can be empowering to those who feel helpless or broken.

Imaging studies have shown that yoga can increase dopamine release in the reward system of the brain, as well as an increase in plasma serotonin, melatonin, and gamma-aminobutyric-acid levels. It is thought that these transmitters can promote positive emotions and a feeling of wellbeing, while also decreasing negative emotions. Yoga can also decrease levels of cortisol, which triggers the brain’s stress response.

From a fitness perspective, yoga can also decrease depression because it shifts a patient’s focus to physical sensation. Practitioners of certain types of yoga may lose weight and show an increase in overall physical health, and that, too, alleviates some depression. Yoga can relieve low back pain that is often associated with depression, and it also improves sleep.  Practicing in a studio that has a focus on its community fosters a feeling of connectedness and helps to motivate students, as well. However, the practice of yoga is not purely exercise or gymnastics because there is a meditative focus on the breath.

Many of us in western society are never taught how to breathe.  It’s simply something our body does to keep us alive, and we’re rarely conscious of it.  However, pranayama, or breath exercises, can help us gain control over otherwise overwhelming emotions.  There are different purposes behind each type of pranayama.  For example, slowing the breath lowers the heart rate, which can calm the parasympathetic nervous system and lower blood pressure in those experiencing anxiety.  Whereas as Kapalbhati breath, where one pumps the abdominal muscles, is energizing and invigorating for someone who is depressed.  Focusing on the breath instead of ruminating on negative thoughts is another way to reduce depression symptoms.

Meditation is becoming an increasingly accepted practice in the U.S.  While it may have previously been dismissed as “new-agey”, medical professionals are now turning to mindfulness-based stress reduction as an intervention for depression.  Mindfulness is especially helpful in preventing relapse.  An awareness of one’s own thought process is crucial when attempting to avoid self-harmful habits.  Guided meditation practices that prompt participants to visualize themselves in peaceful, positive situations or that simply offer an alternate perspective on any given situation can be extremely helpful to those experiencing a feeling of hopelessness. Further, mindfulness eventually motivates patients to participate in other meaningful and enjoyable activities.

In yoga there is a focus on non-judging and non-grasping and being content with what you have.  This notion of self-care is known as santosa.  A large part of meditation in yoga is trying to see the truest version of oneself.  Someone with anxiety may be experiencing unrealistic spiraling thoughts, and viewing him/herself as an objective observer can help reality to sink in once more.

Mindfulness skills have been proven to inhibit or ease symptoms of depression.  A study conducted at Brown University in 2010 found that its participants reported significant decreases in symptoms of depression while also exhibiting significant increases in mindfulness after two months practicing vinyasa yoga.  The majority of their participants wanted to continue to practice yoga after the study was completed.

There are several different aspects of yoga that can help to treat anxiety and depression.  The physical activity, breathing exercises, and awareness practiced are especially beneficial.  Whether it be through yoga or not, physical health and self study are necessary to combat mental diseases and disorders that affect so many people in the United States.  Why not cultivate this mind-body connection through a fun yoga practice in a safe, nonjudgmental environment?

Tags yoga, depression, anxiety, mindfulness, just breathe
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Mindful Meals

April 14, 2017 Emily Haight
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image via leefromamerica.com

Golda Meir said, “Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life.” The second of the eight limbs of yoga is niyama, and niyamas are ways of caring for yourself. One of the niyamas is isvara pranidhana, which focuses on staying humble and surrendering to a higher power. For some people, that means trusting in God, and for others, like me, it means trusting in your own intuition. Surrendering to your gut, that little voice inside that tells you to do or not do a certain thing, is harder than it sounds. We make excuses and deals with ourselves and find reasons to do things that we know aren’t serving us. One of the everyday ways we do this is with our meals. Though I’ve never been diagnosed with a clinical eating disorder, like many women, I’ve exhibited disordered eating behaviors. I would fill up on seltzer so I wouldn’t be hungry at meals. I’d ignore my growling stomach. If I lost a little bit of weight overnight, I would make sure to eat exactly what I ate the day before again so I could lose another pound. I didn’t listen to my body and the signs it was giving me that it wanted more food sometimes, and most of the time, that it wanted better food. Listening to your body and listening to the intellectual part of your brain that knows that vegetables are good for you as opposed to anything with “skinny” or “natural” on the label is the way to be the healthiest version of you.

Pay attention to what you put in your body.  Food is fuel and medicine, and yes, it tastes great! Now, I just like to eat in a way that makes me feel good afterwards, not just in the moment, because I know that what I’m taking in has positive effects on my body, energy, and overall wellbeing. No, I’m not eating a “perfect” healthy diet, and I’m definitely not afraid of fats and sugar, but I try to bring a mindful awareness to my eating and to trust myself. 

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